Thinking About Divorce
So, you are thinking about divorce. It's always a trying time when you think your marriage may be coming to an end. Many, if not most, couples end up splitting long before ''til death do they part." So, remember you are certainly not alone. Even marriages that do survive will have moments when one or both of the spouses will consider divorce. Hopefully, that will be the case for you, but you should keep in mind that there is life and happiness after divorce, even when it is very difficult to imagine right now.
Our Role as Your Attorney in a Divorce
As attorneys, our job is not to provide you with marriage counseling. Likewise, we neither encourage nor discourage you from seeking a divorce. That is among the most important of decisions. It is yours to make and yours alone, but the decision should be made with strong experienced legal counsel guiding you through the process. Simply put, our job is to give you the best legal advice we can for you and your family, to present you with all your legal options, and to represent your interests zealously, without judgment.
When to See A Divorce Lawyer?
We strongly advise anyone considering divorce to meet with us as soon as possible. Too often, we see a new divorce client who wants to file for divorce immediately or has already been served with divorce papers. While we can certainly handle those immediate needs, the clients' legal options would likely have been better had the client consulted with us long before the decision to seek divorce was made. Preparing will almost always give you a better result and sometimes the reasons the client wants a divorce could be rectified by a solution other than divorce, such as legal separation, or post-nuptial agreements for example.
Ideally, the time to seek a consultation is when you believe divorce is a mere possibility rather than a certainty, perhaps even sooner. We would review your financial information, listen to your unique family situation, advise you on your legal rights in terms of property division, parenting issues, ongoing support etc., and counsel you on the steps we recommend you consider to put yourself in the most favorable position in the event you decide to move forward with a divorce.
One situation where we would likely advise clients to consider immediate action is when there has been violence or abuse in the family. If your spouse is violent , abusive, controlling, suffers from mental illness, or has a chemical addiction, the safety of you and your children should be your first priority. Even if you are also a victim, you have a duty to protect your children from abuses of the other parent.
It is not unusual for abusers to manipulate their victims. Their behavior may seem normal or the victim may even feel that the fault is theirs. If this is happening in your family, or even if you think it might be, you need to break that abusive cycle to protect yourself and your children. If this is happening to you, contact us immediately to discuss your options or if you are in immediate danger contact the police.
Meet with an Attorney
Every case is unique. Divorce and family law attorney David Chowins would be happy to meet with you to discuss your particular situation. Call 469-630-2550 to set up a consultation. Often he can meet with you the same day or arrange an immediate telephone consultation.
Divorce Process in Texas
Most divorce cases are settled…eventually. However, many cases run through at least the initial phases of litigation prior to the parties resolving their issues. No case is identical, but most cases tend to follow the same general path. This article hopes to increase your understanding of what to expect during your divorce case, albeit in the most general terms. Nonlegal teminology, rather than legaleze used in Texas courts (e.g., Custody vs. Conservatorship) has been adopted for the reader's convenience.
Issues In Divorce Cases
The purpose of a divorce action is, of course, to terminate the marriage, but this is not usually a issue of contention as most states including Texas have one form of no fault divorce or another. Simply alleging that the marriage is not salvagable is usually enough to terminate the marriage. The issues in dispute typically include 1) how to fairly divide the assets and debts of the divorcing parties, 2) each parent's rights with respect to any minor children (child custody and other parenting issues), 3) the amount of child support, if any, that the court should order a parent to pay the other for support of minor children, and 4) the amount, if any, should a party pay to support to the other for a time after the marriage (i.e., spousal support, commonly referred to as alimony).
Initial Meeting With Attorney
First, you meet with your attorney where you will discuss your particular circumstances and what you hope to accomplish. The attorney will have questions for you and ask that you provide certain documentation (e.g. bank statements, tax returns etc.). If you have not already, the attorney will probably ask you to complete a questionnaire to make certain all pertinent issues are covered. The attorney will discuss with you the likelihood that your goals can be achieved and the approach(s) the attorney could take to achieve those goals including any risks associated with those approach(es).
Filing for Divorce and Temporary Orders
After you have spoken with your attorney and decided to proceed, the actual case starts with one of the spouses filing a petition in a district court. and then serving the other spouse with the court papers. Although not required, at the time of filing, the filing spouse can also ask the Court to issue temporary orders which are, at a minimum, designed to maintain peace and civility between the parties and minor children. Often local court rules will automatically make temporary orders for this purpose. In addition, the filing party can ask the court for temporary orders relating to child custody, child support, spousal support (alimony), and temporary possession of property among other things. The orders will also prevent the parties from wasting or hiding of assets during the case. The filing party will likely need to complete a financial affidavit and worksheets before the judge would consider temporary orders of support.
Amending Temporary Orders
If these temporary orders are sought at the time of filing, they are considered without the other spouse's input, or ex parte in legal jargon. Since the filing spouse is unlikely to act in the interest of the other spouse, it is often an advantage to file before the other spouse does. Fortunately for the other spouse, the non-filing spouse has the right to seek to vacate or amend the ex parte temporary orders. Still, that spouse generally would have the burden to show the court why the temporary orders should be changed. At later points in the case, either party can ask the Court to amend those temporary orders during the case as circumstances change.
Court Ordered Mediation and Parenting Classes
Courts prefer the parties to reach an agreement as to all matters, but especially those issues pertaining to children. So, after the initial hearing, if not before, the parents will typically be ordered to attend mediation or some other type of alternative dispute resolution process in order to encourage agreements on issues. If the parties have minor children of the marriage, many courts will order that the parties attend a parenting class as well.
Negotiations, Discovery, and Preparing for Trial
Throughout this period, your attorney is continuing negotiations with your spouse and his or her representative while simultaneously preparing for trial should the negotiations fail. Because conducting discovery and preparing for trial results in significant legal fees, not to mention aggravation for the parties, both parties have a great incentive to make a good faith effort to resolve all issues prior to trial. Because of this and the uncertainty of what the judge may order, most do reach an agreement prior to trial. However, if the other party won't budge, going to trial may be the only way to get a fair result.